A divorce can be tough for your children. The process essentially changes their way of living and thrusts them into a completely different situation. For some children, divorce can result in major psychological issues that can last for years. To help ease the process as much as possible, you may want to consider a nesting arrangement when it comes to custody.
Nesting is a newer concept in divorce. What happens is you maintain the family home that the children live in and are used to. Then each parent will live in their respective homes until it is time to be with the children during their custody time. This keeps from you swapping the children constantly. Nesting refers to children being allowed to stay in their own "nest," or the only home they know. Although this situation sounds innovative and beneficial, can it work for you? Here are some things you need to know:
Are There Any Legal Problems with Nesting?
You first need to consider any legalities with nesting. Some states will not see you as a separated couple under the law if you maintain the family home, even if you do not live there at the same time. When it comes to divide your assets and deal with child support and spousal maintenance, nesting may make things more difficult.
What About the Expense of Nesting?
You also need to think about the financial implications of this arrangement. You need to maintain the cost of not only your children's home but also your own separate accommodations. The expense related to the children's home will have to be divided between you, which means you have to hash out an agreement in your divorce settlement. You also have to think about whether you should decide to sell the home once the children are of age.
This situation will be costlier than a typical child custody situation. Each of you has to maintain both homes.
What Are the Benefits of Nesting?
Consider the benefits of a nesting arrangement before you commit to it. Nesting helps children maintain some sense of normalcy after a divorce. While things will be somewhat different, they will have familiarity in their surroundings. Nesting helps prevent the feelings of brokenness that often comes with divorce. The children will also feel more stable, which is essential to their well-being.
If you are considering a nesting custody arrangement, be sure to check the laws in your state and determine whether or not you and your spouse can handle such a situation. Work with a local family attorney for more information.Share